Complacency is the mother of all change. Most of us, so it seems, can only stay comfortable for so long. Life is going well, there is an uncomplicated routine so marriage, children, leasing an apartment, etc. happens. Eventually, often after you’ve exhausted those previous options, the gnawing complacency and the desire for change that it creates moves inward.
Before you know it, you’re dieting, learning a new hobby, chasing a new career, and so on. Possibilities of what that desire can create within us are infinite. Our latent desire straddles the fence of being terrifying and liberating. Does this strange malaise of humanity ever go away, or does it subside, waiting for the right time to strike.
When the malaise sets in, it can be difficult to figure out what one wants. This is the nature of tradeoffs. New career skills would be great, but learning a language is fun. Having a social life would be wonderful, but getting more out of your career might be more prudent, and more beneficial in the long term. Decisions, decisions.
We can’t have it all, but voids are difficult to fill. Additionally, it’s straight up unhealthy to fill those voids with entities that may not fix them. Loneliness can’t be cured by drugs. Lust for drugs, and alcohol and partying also cannot be fulfilled by intellectual pursuits. Usually, a wild social life must be substituted for a regular one; loneliness is usually fixed via a rewarding hobby and fulfilling relationships with other people.
Of course, we are all different. Miraculously, some people can substitute their voids with unconventional pursuits. What do you think those unconventional things will be? Maybe it’s best for us to simply know that the malaise will come and that we should prepare for it. You can never really know what you want, well, until you get it.
Ain’t that something?